When I was in ninth grade, I heard this saying:
Love is the feeling you feel when you feel you are feeling a feeling you feel you have never felt before.
Yes, it's a little silly. But it's true, isn't it? When I saw Rick the first time, I absolutely knew that I was going to marry him. As he so beautifully wrote for me, in a poem that I keep in a drawer right next to my bed, it was like when our eyes met, "we must not have begun. In that moment, we neither started nor created, but surely remembered."
You may not know this, but not everybody was thrilled about me and Rick getting married. His brothers were NOT sold on me. In fact, Nate (then 14 years old) told me once when I was at their house for dinner while Rick was on his mission, that I really should date other guys while Rick was still gone. And almost everyone in my family hated the idea of the marriage. They thought that we were jumping the gun. That we didn't know each other at all. After all, two years of weekly letter writing doesn't reveal a THING about a person's true nature...right?
My parents, ever cautious and protective of their youngest daughter, insisted that we take a marriage class BEFORE we tied the knot. We did. And, again, people hated us. Much to the chagrin of the other couples there (who were taking copious notes and sitting at least a foot away from their significant other), we'd sit so close together that I'm sure you couldn't have wedged a souvenir penny between us.
After we married, we became acutely aware of the stress that can enter in to a relationship if you give too much consideration to the advice family members or other friends may give. We forgot at times that when we get married, we're supposed to leave our fathers and mothers, and cleave unto our husband or wife.
Elder L. Whitney Clayton told us:
I have observed that in the happiest marriages both the husband and wife consider their relationship to be a pearl beyond price, a treasure of infinite worth. They both leave their fathers and mothers and set out together to build a marriage that will prosper for eternity. They understand that they walk a divinely ordained path. They know that no other relationship of any kind can bring as much joy, generate as much good, or produce as much personal refinement.
Sometimes it may be hard, and you might hurt some feelings along the way, but you can't let anyone interfere with what you are trying to build. You married your true love for all of his or her billions of qualities. Remember these always.
Remember to hug. Remember to kiss. Remember to laugh and to smile and to joke and to wrestle and to date and to support and to hold hands and to fight and to make up and to sit and do nothing and to build and to create and to cleave unto each other.
Make people want to throw up. Every place is the place for lovey-dovey stuffy. I promise.